Wednesday, July 15, 2020

July 15, 2020

My Thankful List


I am thankful for Life.  I am thankful for life from conception to natural death.

I was thinking about life because of a young teen giving birth to a child, a young man was injurer in a car wreck, and my mom passing at 87.  All life is precious even an unplan child to an elderly adult.

Thank you, Jesus, for live and that I am wanted.


Monday, July 13, 2020

My Thankful List - A Place to Stay

July 8, 2020

My Thankful List

A Safe Place to Stay

There were times in my life when I slept in my car.  I did not always have a place where I was wanted, a safe place to stay, or I did not always have gas money to drive to a safer place.  

Now, I am thankful for safe places to stay.  I have a friend in Flordia.  His home is approximately a mile away from the beach and with lots of places to walk.  With family and friends, I have lots of places to stay in the Upstate of SC and the Mountains of NC,  I also have friends in Illinois.  All the locations in between I have #ChoiceHotels, 

Thank you, Jesus, for a safe place to stay. Thank you, Jesus, for family and friends. 


Tuesday, July 7, 2020

My Thankful List - Love

July 7, 2020

My Thankful List


Love, putting others before yourself, caring for others, doing something for others without expectations.  Love is an action word.  You can say it all day long, but until you do something, love is just a word.  

Thank you, Jesus, for your LOVE.  Jesus, you showed us you love us by dying for us. But you became our Savior by arising the third day, living in heaven, and watching.  Thank you, Jesus, for sending The Holy Spirit for help, lead, and guide us.


My Thankful List - Hope

July 6, 2020

My Thankful List


The world defines hope as wanting something to happen.  To me, hope is expecting something to happen.

Thank you, Jesus, for your hope and your promises.  Thank you for your hope of never leaving us.  Thank you for dying on the cross for us and arising the third day.  Thank you for our eternal hope of a peaceful life beyond earth in hope.


Sunday, July 5, 2020

My Thankful List - Sunday

July 5, 2020

My Thankful List

Sunday, The day fo the week.

Even though sometimes, we have to work on Sunday, I like to thank God for Sundays.  God set the example to working 6 days and resting 1 day.

Thank you, Jesus, for Sundays.  Thank you for rest and reflection.  Than you for a day off from stress and a day to enjoy you and your love. A day to stop and remember everything that God has done for us.


Saturday, July 4, 2020

My Thankful List - 4th of July

July 4, 2020

My Thankful List

I am thankful for July 4, 1776. The Congress of the 13 states voted to be Independent of Great Britain

Thank you for the brave men who wrote the document: Thomas Jefferson with Benjamin Franklin, and John Adams.  

Thank you for the 56 men who signed the document, especially John Hancock, the largest signature of all.  

In signing the document, they pledged their lives, their fortunes, and their honor.  This is what happened to these men: captured and killed, fought to the death, lost their homes and land, and their families were killed.  Just as they pledged with their eyes wide open, they all suffered losses.  

In signing this document, they knew that they could be killed by England soldiers.  Do our political leaders have the same strength even until death?

Thank you, Jesus, for America and the 4th of July, USA Independence Day.  Thank you for all the brave men who signed the Declaration of Independence.


Friday, July 3, 2020

My Thankful List - Long Wekends

July 3, 2020

My Thankful List

Long Weekend and Freedom

Thank you, God, for this long weekend and Freedom.  Sometimes small things are the best: like a Friday, Saturday, and Sunday off when it is normally the 5 days and most of the time working 6 days per week.  This 4th of July I am enjoying Freedom.

Thank you, God, for this special weekend because it is the 4th of July.  Thank you, God, for Freedom we have to worship you and to love and care for each other.


Thursday, July 2, 2020

My Thankful List - My Best Friend

July 2, 2020

My Thankful List

My Best Friend

Thank you for my best friend, Jesus.  Before I went to first grade, I asked Jesus to be my best friend. 

When life feels like it out of control, Jesus is in control.
When there is no-one, Jesus is always there.
When I am in my 10x10 room where I live and work, I can feel his presence.  When there are no windows to see the outside, he is there. 
When my migraines are so bad, and I can not see, he comforts me.

Thank you, Jesus, for being my best friend.  You have never left me.  You are always there to gently guide me when I am lost.   


Wednesday, July 1, 2020

July 2020 Thankful Challenge

The July 2020 Challenge is to post ONE thing From My Thankful List.  

Someone ask for me to be an example and post My Thankful List and to show them what did I mean by "Thankful List."  

The Thankful List is simply what you are thankful for.  This is how I make my Thankful List.    
First, I make a list of people and animals, places, and things that are positive in my life.  I read this list out loud to remind me, I am not alone and there are things to be thankful for.
              Example:  My Office with innernet.

Second, I say why I am thankful and I state it in a pray.  Why can change. 
              Example: Before the COVID, I was thankful for my office because my office had                             innernet to work.  Now my office with innernet is my safe place to work.



My Thankful List - My Children

July 1, 2020

My Thankful List

My Children

During and after my divorce, my children and I did not get to see as much as we wanted. I always told my children, "I love you, no matter what."  "No matter where we are.  No matter what we are.  No matter what we are doing.  No matter what."  Now my children are adults, I still remind them I love them no matter what, because Jesus loves us No Matter What.

Thank you, Jesus, for my children.  Thank you that they are keeping in touch with me.  Jesus keeps your protective arms around them and keeps them safe.  Jesus, stay close to my children, no matter what.


Friday, May 22, 2020


Learning like a Candle

When I was in high school, I had a teacher explain learning is like a candle.  He challenged me to get several candles and go outside on a very dark night with no house light.

When I got home, I talked to my grandfather to help me find some candles and matches.  He helped me set up the candles on the back steps.  Before we started, my grandfather read the note from the teacher, this is you at the beginning of the class - 1 candle.  My grandfather started asking me questions.  When I answered the question correctly, I would light a candle.  In the beginning, I could not see the steps.  After answering the questions, I could see all the steps.

At the bottom of the page, another note, look at the candles and see how much you have learned.  Now put the candles to your back.   Look down, you can see a path.  Look out into the darkness as far as you can see. There will always be more to learn.  Use the knowledge for the candles to go forward and learn. No matter how many candles you light, there will be 1 more candle in the shadows to be lite.

As we find ourselves with more and more free time on our hands.  I challenge you to read, watch a video, do something to learn every day.  Every day you will be lighting a candle of knowledge.

Now that I am in my 50's, I understand the story.  An old man and a young man were working together.  The young man was trying to tell the old man this is a better way.  The old man waited until the young man was finished.  He looked at him and said, son, I have forgotten more than you know.  The old man looks at the young lady, call me when he needs me.  And he walks off.  Sometimes we forget that the people before us have learned lessons that we can learn from.


Saturday, May 16, 2020



For me, one of the hardest parts about COVID-19 is THE RULES.

I am still uncomfortable introducing myself and not shaking hands. My great-uncle taught me to shake hands at the beginning and end of a business conversation. Your word was sealed with a handshake. 
The other part about NO TOUCHING is touch is a positive motivator.    A pat on the back meant a good job.  A hug said I am here for you. 
#PositiveIdeaSay, Write, Post - some positive words of encouragement.

This rule, I do not like.  How do you carry on a conversation with someone 6' part?  Inside a building, it is more comfortable to talk. I feel very distant.   Being outside with all the noise and being 6' apart, I can not always understand what the other person is saying.  I have to say, "I am sorry, what did you say?"  I fell like I am yelling at the other person, and the other person is yelling at me.
#PositiveIdea: Use Video Chat to keep up with people.

#TheMASK - I do not mean this to offend anyone. 
I am not a doctor. I do not have a medical degree. Over the past 50+ years, I have helped with a lot of sick people, including my children's health issues. From everything I have read in medical journals and medical personal I have talked to, it traps your carbon dioxide and other poisons you breathe out.  You breathe in the trapped toxins back into your lungs. A medical mask is not meant for people to wear them for an extended period. People need to breathe in fresh oxygen.  
When I wear a mask, I feel confined and trapped.  Sometimes I have breathing issues. I have trouble breathing with something over my mouth.
#PositiveIdea: Change your HVAC filters once a month.  In your home, get plants to help purify the air.  Go somewhere where are trees and plants to breathe in good air.

#CONFINEMENT:  Because of COVID-19, I mainly stay in a 10x10 room with no windows, my office.  It can get very lonely being single and by yourself day in and day out.  I am very thankful I have adult children who I can see in person, I can call, text, and video chat.
#PositiveIdeaAt my office, after everyone leaves, I walk to get in some exercise.

COVID-19 has changed how people interact with each other.  I am asking for everyone to love everyone and help meet the needs of the people around you.  My grandfather said, "Don't look down on people.  You are only one breath away from being that person.  Help everyone you can.  So when you need help. there are people to help you."


Sunday, May 10, 2020



I have read many versions of the holy scripture, many books, lessons, and listened to many speakers.  These bible verses have helped me thru a lot in both happiness and sorrow.  This is what these Bible verses say to me.

1 CHRONICLES 4:8-10  KJV 2000

VERSE 8:  And Koz begat Anub and Zobebah, and the families of Aharhel the son of Harum.

VERSE 9:  And Jabez was more honorable than his brethren: and his mother called his name Jabez, saying Because I bore him with sorrow.

VERSE 10:  And Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, Oh that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my border, and that your hand might be with me, and that you would keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me! And God granted him that which he requested.

In verses 1-8:  There is a long list of men and their sons ...  Then Jabez interrupted the scripture in the list of descendants.  He was different and honorable. Even thru it is not clear who his father is, it is clear he is in the line of the Tribe of Judah.  The Tribe of Judah is the King's bloodline.  The scriptures indicated that he was always honorable.
Jabez's name meant he caused pain and sorrow.  The verses do not say if he received the name Sorrow / Pain because of Mental, Physical, Social or Economic sorrow to his mother.  A loss of a husband could have been all of these for his mother.  All we know is when his mother looked on her son & she named him.  Naming the child is the father's position in the family, but Her sorrow and pain were so great that she called him Jabez - Sorrow and Pain.

Jabez came to a place in his life that he wanted things to be different.  He did not want the same old experience that all the other brothers, neighbors, and the men in verses 1-8 had.  Jabez wanted more and better, but honorable.  And he prayed.

Jabez prayed, You would bless me indeed!  Jabez did not ask for a one-time blessing, he asked for a God size blessing.  A miraculous presence not for just for his family but to bless his community.  

Jabez prayed to enlarge his borders.  He wanted more fields and more animals and more workers to help people with food and money, just like people helped his mother. Becoming wealthy and honorable meant, Jabez got the position to sit in the gate (a town lawyer or town judge) to help people with their problems. In today's language, A man would pray to own a large company to employ all the people in his community.  Because he was a leader in the city, he would also be a political leader for all ... after all, he is in the King's bloodline. Or If he became a lawyer to help people, he would become the best lawyer, and then became the best judge to help people.

Jabez prayed for God's hand to be on him.  He did not want a one-time blessing but a relationship with God and His hand continually on him.

Jabez prayed For God to keep him from evil.  Because he was honorable, when God gives him wealth and power, he did not want sin in his life.  Jabez did not want to do evil to people.  He did not want others to do harm to him.  More importantly, Jabez wanted God to keep the evil one away from him.

Jabez prayed it would not grieve me.  He did not want to be the source of pain, and he did not want to be in pain anymore.  He knew only God and give God size miracles.

God granted his prayer.  God changed his life.  At the beginning of verse 9, Zabez was the source of sorrow and pain.  With God's blessings at the end of verse 10, he became the overcomer of grief and pain for himself and his family and his community.


Saturday, May 9, 2020

My Blog - Live The Positive Life


Over the last few years, I would travel to the mountains of NC a lot.  I would come up to be with my mother.  She did not know I was her daughter but she was happy to see me.  On her good days, she asked what I was doing.  Can you imagine now to explain what a blog is to an 80+ lady?  I finally said I am sending letters to people.  To help her understand, I let her read these letters.  She said oh that's nice.  As time when by and more she read, she asks, why did I leave out Jesus? I used the word, God. She would say I know that, but I said, Jesus.   She asked me, Why are you being positive?  Who is the real reason why you are positive?  Who is your example of being positive?  I tried to explain that I had placed in my blog that talked about God.  She said that is good but where is Jesus?  The more I tried to explain the more questions she had about Jesus.

The question she asked me that stopped me in my tracks was.   Are you ashamed of Jesus?  Are you afraid to say, Jesus?  No Momma I am not ashamed and I am not afraid.  She said really - Read your words.   I was not intentionally leaving out the word Jesus.  I was not trying to be religious.  I was just trying to get people to live a more positive life vs negative life. 

Now that my momma has passed I still hear her questions.  Are you ashamed of Jesus? Are you afraid of saying the word, Jesus?  My answer is No.  No, I am not ashamed of Jesus.  No, I am not afraid to say, the name Jesus.  I am a Christian.  I am who I am today because of Jesus Christ ... A Sinner Saved by Jesus' Blood.  And I will see my mother again when I go to heaven.  But more importantly, I will see Jesus.  He died for me on the cross.  Thank you, Jesus, for everything you have done for me and everyone in the world.

My mother asked me to put more Jesus in my Letters to the World.  So in honor of my mother's request, I will.

In the summer before the 1st grade, I spent a week in Greenville, SC with my great Aunts.  One night I could not sleep.  My Aunt found me up and we started talking.  When she asked me about Jesus, I said I was too young - that is what the adults had told me.   Then she said if you could ask Jesus for 1 thing what would it be?  I said I do not have a real friend, I would like to have a real friend.  My aunt told me Jesus would be my best friend if I ask him to be.  So I closed my eyes and asked Jesus to be my best friend.  And He is my best friend.

That is why I do not think about my relationship with Jesus as being religious.  He is my best friend.  Sometimes I don't talk with him (pray).  Sometimes I don't read his love letters to me (The Holy Bible).  Sometimes I do what I what to do instead of doing what I know He wants me to do.  When I am hurt and broken, Jesus is always there to hold me and help me.  I love Jesus and I know He loves me too.

Jesus reminds me, I am a living soul and I  have a body.  What do I connect to my soul?




I have asked to give this subject a little bit of positive.

Examples of people are spending positive time together.  

A friend said she is getting to know her son and her son is getting to know her.  She said she understands her son and his sense of humor better.  Before she thought he was just being mean but she learned it was his dry humor.  Now when he says something off the wall, they just laugh.   She also found out he can sing and really good at card games.  Now if he wants to play on his #ComputerGames, he has to play card games with his family.  She said Win-Win.  She also said to watch tv, she has to use the treadmill.  Her husband said win-win.

I was talking to a couple.  She said all the neighbors come outside about the same time every evening to get fresh air.  Every family takes turns walking up and down the street waving at the neighbors and saying HI.  That is creative

A teenager said in order to see her boyfriend she has to sit in the family car in her driveway while her mom and dad sit on the porch.  Her boyfriend parks in his sport and they look at each other and talk on their cell phones.  Now that's funny.  She said that is better than face time all the time.

I was talking to a grandmother, she said she is not taking her pain meds and her high blood pressure medician.  This slower lifestyle is great.

A mother said she is having fun cooking real meals with real food for her family.  She is loving working from home.  She is not doing the hurry up and heat-up the meals.  There is no more hurry-hurry in her house.  Then later she made a post she is going to miss this when everyone goes back to being busy again.  My committed is: ask &  see if you can work from home late.  You are now. :) 

When this Pandemic is over and we go about your life.  Remember you are living your lives now.  Decide now how you want to live your life.  Slower can be better.  




My Mother, and No Dad

I grew up on a working farm in the '60s. On this farm, there were a lot of animals, my grandparents, my sister, my Mother, and no dad.  My grandfather was really my dad.  I preferred to stay outside, helping him with the land and animals.  I hate to say this, but my mom and I did not get along.  When I was little, things happened.  I would ask about my father, but she would say it is best if I did not know him.  The kids at school would say things to me about not having a dad.  The words were heartrending.  That made me want to know him because everyone has a dad to exist.  Something was missing.  Then the adults would lie to me about my dad.  So I never knew the truth.

As time passed, we drifted apart.  My mom and I never talked about anything important.  My children seemed to be a nuisance to her.  There were things between us that made it uncomfortable.  We never made plans except for her birthday.  Her birthday was around Thanksgiving, so I tried to also see her for her around Thanksgiving.

About 10 years ago, Mark's dad got sick.  His eyes got infected, and the infection when to his brain.  His dad did not recognize Mark as his son, but Mr. Abba would call him Hank - his son-in-law, the cop.  Mr. Abba would talk about Mark to Hank. It was so funny.  I remember one time Mark called his dad from his dad's yard.  They talked and talked until his dad said I need to find Hank.  I have to keep an eye on him.  When Mark walked in, Mr. Abba told Hank all about the call he just had with his son Mark in NC.  That night we went out to eat, and we laughed.  Mark said now I know how much my dad really loves me.  These memories would help me with my Mother.  

Over the last several years, my mom's mind started declining.   She had Alzheimer's. She did not remember me or my name.   So every time I went to see her, I remembered how Mark handled his dad, not knowing him. I stopped being upset because she did not know me.  I noticed my Mother wanted me around more and more.  She would ask me to come back to see her.  I would go see my mom, I was not her daughter -  I was a caregiver.   She would say now make sure they pay you because sometimes they are stingy.  I would just laugh.   Sometimes she would talk about her childhood.  It was as if she was right there reliving it.  There were a few times she would just stop talking, and she would say there are things not worth mentioning because all it is--- is pain.

 Now I understand why she would not tell me about my dad.  The subject of him, my grandparents, and other things were so painful to her because she had not forgiven herself.  I don't know what happened, and now it is not essential, but whatever it was - I forgive you, Mom.



In February 2020, I drove from FL to NC to be with Mother because I was told she was getting sicker. She passed within a few weeks.  On Sunday before she passed, my Mother knew me and told me she was ready to go home (Heaven), reaching upward.  So this Mother's Day, my Mother is in a heavenly home.  Mom, I miss you, but you are healthy now.  One day I will see you again.  Love you, Mom.  Thank you for giving me life.

Since her death in March, I have had a hard time.  I have been out of sorts ... with work, with relationships, with life ... with everything.  I am trying to find my way.  I never thought her death would feel like this.

I try to always leave on a positive note.
The positive is she is in heaven, healthy and happy.
The positive is I will see my Mother again.

Love your Mother while you have her ... good - bad - indifferent ... Love Your Mother, she gave you life.


Thursday, January 16, 2020

Practice What You Preach

My Grandfather's Wisdom in Riddles


As I was growing up on the farm, my grandfather often said these one-liners that I still remember.  Some of my grandfather's statements:

     Walk one foot in front of the other, so you walk straight on your path.

     Actions speak louder than words, what story are you telling?
     When people look at your life, let your actions and wolds mean the same thing.
     Say what you mean and mean what you say.
     Say what you do and do what you say.

     The one that I remember the most is: Practice what you preach.

My grandfather often spoke in riddles, I did not understand "practice what you preach." I am a female and raised Southern Baptist. What did he mean by practicing preaching?  In the '70s, women didn't preach.   Do I preach to the farm animals?  I was so confused.

One day I overheard some adults talking about a man disappearing. The ladies of the church were taking some food to the lady and school/church clothes for the children.

When I asked my grandfather what happened to the man? How did he just disappear? Did aliens get him?  My grandfather said the man did not practice what he preached.  Now I am baffled.  He was not a preacher.  What did preaching have anything to do with disappearing?   I asked one more time ... what does it mean to "practice what you preach?"  He said our neighbor said he loved his wife and family, but he hurt them by having another family with a secret woman.  What he said did not match his actions.

So practice what you preach, also means let your actions and words mean the same thing.  Before you do anything, ask yourself, is this the sermon you want to preach?  Before you say anything, ask yourself, is this the sermon you want to preach?




Monday, January 6, 2020

David and Goliath Bible Story


When my son was ten-year-old, he acted out his perspective of the Bible Story: David and Goliath.  
It was time for a Bible story. My son volunteered to tell the story as a one-person show.  

Levi stood up, I choose David, a young boy around 14-years-old.

(He stand up on the couch in a deep voice.)   
Goliath: Do you have a warrior? Do you have just one person who will stand up to me?   
(He laughed into his hands and made the laugh echo.)  

(Then he would jump down on his knees in a mousey voice.)  
Israel men:  We are afraid. Goliath will kill us.  

(He runs to his room and gets his slingshot with no rocks. He walked into the room Singing Jesus loves me. He walked over to us. Standing tall.)   
David: Who is that on the mountain?   

(He jumped down on his knees in a mousey voice.)  
David's Brother: David get down.  Goliath and he is going to kill us. We are afraid.  

(He stood up and got up on the coffee table.)  
David: I will fight you in the name of Israel’s God.  

(He got up on the couch.)  
Goliath: You are a child. I will feed you to the birds. HA-HA, 
(He opened up his arms in laughter.)  

(He got on the coffee table. Goliath laughs, and David swings.)   
David: Goliath and all the Philistine warriors will die today. I will sling this stone in the name of Israel’s God.  
(David hits Goliath. Goliath is dead.) 

(My son gets on the couch and stands on Goliath - a pillow and with a hand over eyes.)  
David: I am looking, but all of the Philistines are running away.   
(David was the hero and he praised God.)
Sunday Morning in Sunday School:   
After the lesson, a question was asked: “Why did David get 5 stones”?   
My son responded 1 for Goliath and 4 for the other generals, and the other Israel warriors will get the rest.   
That morning I did not say anything at church, but it made me think. When we got home, I asked him about his answer. My sons answered ... 1 stone per person per town, you know leaders.  
My son said more truth than I realized. In an Adult Bible study, I found it. There were 5 Philistine warriors named in a Bible Study - Goliath, Ishbibi-Benob, Lahmi, Saph, and Gath - the Giant with 6 fingers each hand and 6 toes each foot. (2 Samuel 21) My son remembered and I did not.  Out of the mouths of babes. 

David was a 14-year-old boy and Goliath was a grown man and a giant,  As with the lion and bear, David know God's protection. 


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