First, in the time of loss, we need to grieve. Give yourself time to say goodbye to the past and embrace the future. No matter how hard it hurts, one morning you will awake and notice you are a little better.
Second, find a support group. Please seek help. Some people say after 30 days, but everyone needs help from a support group. Some people have family who is encouraging, some people need to go outside your family, depending on what has happened. Seek out a group of people who are having the same problems. When there is a loss, you will need a group of people who will help and not judge. You will need to find positive ways to adjust your life.
Third, be realistic. Accept what you can and cannot do. Accept what you can and cannot change. Accept people who are encouraging you.
Fourth, find something positive to do each day. Don't sit around and complain about the problems. Get up and move. When you feel the blues coming; walk, run, go to the gym, move.
Fifth, give back and help others. As you live your life, you will meet people who are going thru the same kind of loss, reach out and help them. Give to these people in a positive way because you know how that pain feels.
By: Reinhold Niebuhr
God grant me the
Serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can change;
and Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it;
Trusting, that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and Supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
IN TIME OF LOSS ...