Monday, December 31, 2018

New Beginnings

New Year Everyone!

Everyone thinks of starting over at New Years.  The New Year magically bring in a new beginning.  It does not take January 1 to start over.  Every morning we awake is a New Beginning.  

Start every day positive.  When we don't get enough sleep, we are not the best we can be.  Go to bed on time and plan 8-10 hours of sleep.  Set the alarm and Get Up!  Turn off the alarm and get out of bed.  It is that simple. Don't start your day thinking I don't want to. Read over your positive list and SMILE. You are alive and be happy.  

I can remember when my adult children were little children.  I had a 40 hr per week job, I had lots of church things, (church services, women meetings, children meetings, choir meetings, and let's don't forget visiting, and etc.).  Then my children had their school activities. Oh, I can't forget I had school for myself.  Sometimes I was so tired, I would just go to sleep. That was not good.  Cover all the important things, limit the extra family activities.  It is OKey to say NO.

I have been told, "But I can't because I have children."  That's great, get your children to help."  They will not do it perfectly, but they will learn how to help and learn how to be productive adults.

Or "I can't get 8 hours of sleep because I have to much to do."  Really, get the rest and sleep you need and plan your day.  Please don't think you are the only one that gets the TO DO LIST done.  As you plan your day, be realistic.  Do forget driving time and traffic. It's hard to be at the ball field and stuck in traffic.  Let's be real, except for a wreck, traffic is not a surprise. WAZE is really good with traffic information.

A note to the single parent:  find someone to help you.  If you have family that is positive, that is great.  A local Church could help. Sometime you might have a neighbor that can help.  Find someone or a group of people that can help you and encourage you.

Starting every day with ... This is a new day. I will be the best I can be.

Live the Postive Life. 

What happened Yesterday, happened Yesterday.

Start a New Day Every Day.


Sunday, December 30, 2018

Holiday Memories

Go into the holidays, helping others.   

Instead of thinking about all the bad has happened over the years,  make s list of positive things.   

Here are a few things to do.
1.  Help at a community food bank.
2.  Serve meals to the needy.
3.  Adopt a person or family for the holidays.
4.  Volunteer to take gifts at the hospital.
5.  Volunteer at a toy drive.

When you give to someone that had less than you,  you are more thankful for what you have.

It is very easy to see what everyone else has and start thinking, I don't have and I need.  When in honesty it is I can't afford and I just want.  Before you buy, ask yourself what do I have to give up to purchase this item.  Most of the things given are not used and not wanted. 

The most important gift you can give is yourself.  Work demands alot of our time to get paid.  Give the gift of yourself and time.  Give the gift of a Positive Memories.   





Wednesday, November 7, 2018

Decisions and Changes

Charges are hard, even when you have planned them.  In my life right now I am going thru a big change.  These changes are due to a decision I made almost a year ago.  I sold my house and property.  My X-husband and I had bought it around 1990.  I had moved in 2004.  In my house, I had things that belong to my children and grandchild. I have lived several places and of course, all those things ended up in that house.  So I had extra bedding, extra kitchen items (plates, silverware, utilities, pots/pans, etc.).  The hardest part was going thru memories.  I decided since I am moving to a smaller place I am only bringing positive memories.  I had a couch and chair, yes I needed it.  But it was filled with too many bad memories, so it when to the curb.  A gentleman asks me about the chairs, I said please take it. I told him I had too many things to move.  He laughed, I understand.  As we go thru life we have opportunities to remove things in our life.  this was one of those time.  Yes it hurts.  Now the move is over, sometimes I regret leaving somethings behind, but there is a BIG burden lifted.  Holding on to the past will not bring it back.  Just letting go is hard, but it freeing.

Changes are hard.

Negative Changes are burdens.

Positive Changes are freeing.



Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Never Say It's Ok

I was at an Interstate rest area.  I saw a lady being yelled at by a man.  When she went to the restroom, I followed.  I said I have been in your place, what can I do to help?  She said nothing.  He is mad because I have to use the restroom.  Why do you say "IT'S OK".  He said he was sorry.  But that was not OK for him to yell at you.  I asked her to say thank you for saying you are sorry.  She said but he apologized.  I explained just saying "I'm sorry" is not an apology.  Saying Sorry is just that you are sorry that you said or did something OR you are trying to get out of trouble.  An apology is regretting the action (I'm Sorry) and finding a way not to do it again.  Do you see a way for the argument not to happen again?  Yes only if I do not eat or drink anything and I don't have to go to the restroom for the next 10 hours.    I know that is not going to happen.  If she does, she will have health problems.  Before she could finish using the restroom, he was knocking on the door, yelling for her to get out of the restroom.  There were a few ladies in the restroom, she would not tell us her name or where she is from and where she is going to and who the man was.  We gave her some money/change so she could call for help.  I hope she is ok.

Everyone, if someone is hurting you, Do not tell them "IT'S OK."   Saying that does not make the problem go away.  It's not Ok.  It is never OK. When you say it's ok, you tell them if you say I'm sorry then you can yell at me.  When there are high emotions, try to stay calm.  Anger breeds anger.  Yelling breeds yelling.  In the heat of the moment, a lot of things are said and done that should never happen.  If things are physical, please seek help.  Find a safe place to go.




Saturday, September 29, 2018

Here come another decision.

  You wake up, take a shower, eat breakfast, get to work on time.  Everything is good.  You only wish all your days were this perfect. There has not been a single issue until at 4pm, you are asked to go to the conference room.  Your first thoughts were "Am I being fired? Man, I knew today was too good."  Then your negative thoughts were interrupted by others entering the conference room too.  You think "Why are they letting all of us go?  There are a lot of Senior people here.  The company must be hurting to let go of all these people."

  An older man stands and said, Hello everyone.  Everyone in this room has a choice to make over the weekend ... Stay here in Wolf Bay office as apart of the leadership team to save this plant and might be laid off in a year or move to a small town in KY.  We will need your decision on Monday morning.

  If you choose KY, the positions are leadership roles, the company's campus includes furnished condos for all employees.  All employees will have 2 weeks to get there.  The company will fly anyone who wants to fly and ship some personal things or the employee can drive and bring their car and person items.

  In a year the office might be closing without No chance of employment. You will have family and friends and church.  You could be apart of the team who saves the plant. 

  Do you stay to try to save your hometown plant or do you move to upgrade the KY plant?

  Not all decisions are not negative vs positive, but it is a decision.  Not making a decision is a decision also.  You have to decide what is best for you and your family.  Something to think about: why was it so easy to think negative thoughts and going into the meeting.




Wednesday, September 26, 2018

In A Time of Loss

Loss with sorrow, in the separation or death of a person, in the death of a pet, losing your source of income, loss of a home or transportation, etc.  

First, in the time of loss, we need to grieve.  Give yourself time to say goodbye to the past and embrace the future.  No matter how hard it hurts, one morning you will awake and notice you are a little better.   

Second, find a support group.  Please seek help.  Some people say after 30 days, but everyone needs help from a support group.  Some people have family who is encouraging, some people need to go outside your family, depending on what has happened.  Seek out a group of people who are having the same problems.  When there is a loss, you will need a group of people who will help and not judge.  You will need to find positive ways to adjust your life.   

Third, be realistic.  Accept what you can and cannot do.  Accept what you can and cannot change.  Accept people who are encouraging you.   

Fourth, find something positive to do each day.  Don't sit around and complain about the problems.  Get up and move.  When you feel the blues coming; walk, run, go to the gym, move.  

Fifth, give back and help others. As you live your life, you will meet people who are going thru the same kind of loss, reach out and help them.  Give to these people in a positive way because you know how that pain feels.

Serenity Prayer    
By: Reinhold Niebuhr     

God grant me the

Serenity to accept the things I cannot change;  
Courage to change the things I can change;  
and Wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;  
Enjoying one moment at a time;  
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace;  

Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, 
     Not as I would have it;
Trusting, that He will make all things right 
If I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and Supremely happy with Him forever in the next.  


IN TIME OF LOSS ...      
         Get help.

         Give back.


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